Prostate cancer demonstrates particular characteristics and potential stresses for both patient and partner, yet its consequences for the couple are often inadequately addressed in the clinical setting. One-to-one interviews have shown areas of partner need but do not address the dynamic of the couple which itself holds implications for clinical practice. The participation of nine out of a possible 15 women in interviews with men taking part in a study of information needs suggested the extent of involvement by partners in prostate cancer. Secondary analysis of the verbal interaction and thematic content of the interviews authenticated the representation by members of the couple of the struggle against cancer as a shared experience. The women were shown to exercise authority, accepted by men in relation to illness-related issues and assumed responsibility for the management of information, care and the continuation of normal day-to-day life. Findings suggest a model of partner activity in prostate cancer conceptualized as ‘maintaining control over illness’. In the clinical setting, attention to the interaction between partners may facilitate appropriate communication strategies by health professionals, leading to more effective information exchange. Encouragement of the attendance and involvement of partners in the planning of care would support their contribution.