Background: Finding a balance between care and personal needs is often challenging for individuals caring for a person with dementia. Objectives: The present study aimed to understand how primary and secondary family carers of people with dementia perceive the reconciliation of informal care and their personal life throughout the course of care. Methods: Narrative interviews with 14 carers (n=10 female, mean age: 48.79) from seven care networks were conducted. The interviews were analysed using the documentary method. Findings: The result was a relational type formation which comprises different process types: ‘Respect your boundaries, stay calm, but plan ahead’, ‘Acting strategic is making it work’, ‘Reflect the situation, deal with it, and pull it through’ and ‘There is no alternative, you have to live with it’. This typology was based on two related dimensions: the way people negotiate their own needs against the demands of care (prospective, strategic, reflective and limited) and the resulting attitudes towards reconciling informal care and personal life (accepting, withstanding and enduring). Conclusions: The results yield implications for practice, such as considering individual needs and the care network to provide effective support and promoting the importance of self-care behaviours to achieve a balance between care and personal life.